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Thinking as a Personal Language
Thinking as a personal language _____________________________________________________ ‘The limits of my language are the limits of my world.’ Ludwig Wittgenstein #thoughts #emotionalwellbeing #motivation #families #educators #purpose #forwardthinking #choicesmatter...
Why Do Annoying Thoughts Come Back
Who can say their thoughts are more often than not acceptable? Individuals’ unreasonable thoughts and unpredictable emotions generate a questionable vocabulary of unsuitable words and discussions of meaningless sentences, comments, statements and interpretations...
You Are Not A Victime
You Are Not a Victim - Think you are a victim to external factors, influences and people and you will not grow. - A suitable way of regarding yourself as a survivor and a winner is to never compare yourself to another human being. - Stop striving to be like someone...
Remain Alert, Observant and Perceptive
I am the 'pilot; of my journey of life...let me suitable trained and equippe. Let me examine my typical approaches and responses and seek how they may be hijacking my future. Let me be honest and pick out known mistakes that I have made. Let me never hide my mistakes....
Parenthood Is Real and Happening All The Time
Parenthood is equipping your children/teenagers over a number of years to become independent. #families #parentsupport #parents #parentingtips #inspirational #equipping #independence #experience #freedom #teens #relationships #confidence After all, do not parents want...
It is Essential to Prepare Responses
Our responses 'speak' to people around us. #responses #relationships #inspiration #conflict #families #parents #leaders #preparedness #connectionsmatter #communication #peoplematter A questionable response indicates unsuitable emotions. An impulsive response does not...
Leadership Starts at Home
How many educators and business leaders are parents? No leader can ignore the important role that leadership starts at home as a parent. Ignore your children/teenagers and they will become that tiresome individual at school or at work or at sport. Children/teenagers...
Improvements Start with Emotionally Energized Individuals
People will do all sorts of things to feel happy and good about life. How much money is spent on diets, exercise equipment, detoxing programs, medication and doctors’ bills to keep people in a good place?...
Work Together, not Against Each Other
What is Urgently Required in Society… The winning choice is working together and not against each other....
Clarifying Interpretations and Perception
Granny again… My grandson Leo is working out his interpretations and explanations about life. This has become obvious as we interact in #connected #conversation. He is still at the point of wanting his way, especially when building his Lego characters. He let me...
LEADERSHIP STARTS AT HOME
How many educators and business leaders are parents? No leader can ignore the important role that leadership starts at home as a parent. Ignore your children/teenagers and they will become that tiresome individual at school or at work or at sport. Children/teenagers...
Choose to Stay Alive and Well
‘You cannot get out of this life alive’ Leo Buscaglia Winning choices or losing choices are revealed on scoreboards. Which are your favorite games? From computer games to sport there is a great variety of stuff to keep you busy? Thoughts in Action Who wants to...
Children Depend on Prepared Adults
Prepared for what? #preparedness #motivation #gettingthingsdone #help #change #strengths #growth #whatinspiresme #strategy For children to receive the most meaningful inspiration and encouragement they need well-adjusted adults to open the door to their future....
Preparedness – Staying One Step Ahead
‘Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance.’ James Baker An important winning choice to make in personal preparation is to discover how to renew and establish your own productive inner voice and thoughts. ‘Light Tomorrow With Today!’ Elizabeth Barrett Browning. No...
Preparedness..Stay Ahead
Preparedness – one step ahead #preparedness #prepared #preparationiskey #motivation #gettingthingsdone #alerting #parents #leaders #educators #families #society #balance #peoplematter An important form of preparation is to understand that we need to prepare our...
Sharing with Individuals Connects with Them.
Encouraging Sharing Today will Enhance Someone’s Tomorrow Who is bursting to share the ideas and concepts they have received throughout their journey of life? Thanks to LinkedIn connections for doing just this. An individual may imagine they are unwanted or unloved...
Self-awareness Starts With Individuals
#selfawareness #changesstartnow #personaldevelopment #reflection #thoughts Self-awareness can bring relief and contentment to people of all ages and from all walks of life. Knowing why I tick as I do can assist me in analyzing the areas where changes need to be made....
Is Your Life Producing Beneficial Results?
Why Do We Need To Believe In Ourselves? #believeyourself #strength #personaldevelopment #gettingthingsdone #preparation #individuals #lifeandleadership #change #choices #society #motivation #worldchangers How well do we regard our lives? What do we take for granted?...
Let Us Play Happy Families so We Can Produce Happy Families
Let Us Play Happy Families so We Can Produce Happy Families #parents #opendiscussion #preparation #preventativehealth #groups #gettingthingsdone #changeisgood #familylife It is my vision to assist families to prevent conflict and hurt and follow their hearts. ...
Equipping People BEFORE There Are Crises
Once a crisis raises its' head during your journey of life it will prove difficult to solve #inspiration #selfhelp #personaldevelopment #thoughts #motivation #mindfulness #covid19 #lifeadvice #solutionsforyouLearn to focus on how to equip yourself to deal with...
Why Do We Need Changes?
Change takes place when you are no longer satisfied with your present situation or thoughts. Change is needed when we appreciate what is not working for us. Einstein gives us the concept of changing our thoughts because we cannot use old and stale thoughts when making...
Responses are Critical
#responses #approaches As I am revamping a book; I am using the ideas of approaches and responses more and more. You can use attitudes, however, approaches and responses are self-explanatory. There are many questions about approaches and responses. We can use...
What is Stopping You from Success?
Ignorance stems from not being able to think critically, rationally and logically. Ignorance gives rise to deception and falsehoods. Inconsideration has no empathy for people. Inconsideration leaves dirty footprints in peoples' lives. Leaders and people should not...
Changing the thought-pattern
Here are some ideas to assist you how to change your thought-patterns. Say It! I am going to choose to become fluent and connected with creative thoughts. I am going to differentiate between reliable thoughts and critical thoughts. I am going to regularly examine my...
Why would You want to Change Your Approach – 6 Thoughts
Think about how you approach and respond to people. Fairly soon I shall be replacing the slightly changed book 'Inner Voice - Winning Choice' on Amazon.com in eBook format. I am going to post the sections which I call 'SAY IT!' in my next few posts. At the end of...
You Cannot Walk Away from YOU
Prevent deceiving yourself in your thought-language. Your thought-language is the area where you store everything you have said to yourself in your inner voice and thoughts, heard from others and experienced so far. Say It! I am going to create an approach and desire...
THOUGHTS ARE SERIOUS MATTERS
#watchyourthoughts #stayincharge #keeppower When life goes a bit strange and we don't know how to manage it, we may get anxious and think the worst. NNOOO! Here are seven advantages for thinking creatively. Thinking reliably assists you to take part in the best...
Why do the Thoughts of Others Affect You?
#different #thought #noanxiery #walktall #beyou #confidence IT DOESN NOT MATTER Why are we anxious about what others think of us? Why do we spend time thinking in our thoughts about what they are thinking about us? If others are thinking badly about you, you cannot...
What should you Desire the most? 5 Indications
At the top of your list of desires should be the ability to remain emotionally controlled and safe. Then you should desire all the knowledge you can absorb. Will you remember all this knowledge? Unlikely, so make notes about what you learn and especially the...
What would YOU do Next? 6 THOUGHTS
#challenges #thoughts #now #opportunities #facts Oh no! What now? Would this be a BIG CHALLENGE? WHY? How do you face challenges? Here are some ideas about which to seriously think. How do you respond at first to challenges? Describe your responses. Are you...
5 starting blocks in your GAME OF LIFE
Accept that you are responsible for your game of life and take the necessary steps to win. I use the analogy of one's life as a 'GAME OF LIFE' in my book 'Emotional Independence' - The Design for Life. This makes it easier to understand that though we had nothing to...
Life Today is THE REAL THING
Never make new year's resolutions. If you don't keep them you will be angry and disappointed with yourself. Never make promises to yourself. Promises cannot be made because they keep us in bondage, think about this. Never imagine life will change if only you could...
What did You do Today?
#thoughts #changeyourlife #motivation #individuals #awareness #choices Today will be at different times around the world. For me, in South Africa, it is 16h30. What difference have you made in your journey of life today? What difference do you want to make today...
9 Ways to Destroy Hesitation!
There are two kinds of hesitation One that stops you from doing something because your emotions and thoughts give you an early warning signal to seriously think about making choices or taking actions that may cause unfortunate consequences. The other form of...
What are you getting out of life?
Are you happy right now? Do you think you have good opportunities waiting for you? Do you imagine everyone else gets the breaks and you don't? Who is accountable for giving you good results? Examine this diagram. How many of the blocks and bubbles do you have in your...
Do YOU Trust Yourself?
So, who is piloting your personal journey of life? Have you put your journey of life on 'hold' or on 'auto-pilot' while you do nothing? What should you be doing with your journey of life? Are you completely satisfied with how your journey of life is turning out?...
Your Thoughts Follow you Everywhere
#thoughts #dealwiththoughts #changethoughts #thoughtmuscles You can never escape your thoughts. Your dreams are a version of your thoughts. The words you speak are your thoughts...you cannot hide your thoughts. Are you tired of silly thoughts going around and...
What do you have?
If you don't have something, you cannot use it. You can only use what you have and that includes knowledge and information. If you don't use the knowledge you have, you could forget it and lose it. How many people have the necessary knowledge and information to move...
In What ‘Gear’ are You Driving Your Emotions?
No one can 'drive' safely during their journey of life if they are driving their emotions in the wrong 'gear'. The result of emotions that are driven in the wrong 'gear' is an exploding engine. Once the engine of the transportation of your journey of life has...
What Can I Do?
The journey of life offers us 'seasons'. We have great times, we have times when we want to run away, we have times when we want to hibernate, and we have times when we have nothing to do. Let me explain a bit about the Problematic Journey of Life. It causes...
If YOU are not Managing Your Life; I Need YOU.
Our circumstances all over the world may not change quickly for the best due to Covid. We need to each make personal changes in our lives and get rid of doubt and despondency. etc. We can make a difference in our own individuality, personal lives, relationships and...
Prevent creating ‘thought-jams’
#priorities #movingforward #equippingyourself # When I ran my courses for young people I used many analogies so that they could find it easy to visualise situations and setbacks. From then on I assisted them to think for themselves, using analogies and finding...
We all have a History and a Past which Depends on Emotions
Let us each remember, that at times a person's unfavourable behaviours may be triggered from their unsettled and upset emotional state. If we notice a change in their behaviours, approaches and responses we should give them due respect and space and realise their...
You are Your Future
You are the difference in your game of life. To make it easier, I refer to life as a game of life or a journey of life. You are the one and only coach in your game of life, you cannot fire yourself because you are not managing your thoughts. You are the traveller in...
Know Your Strengths
When you know your strengths and focus on these you are heading into Emotional Independence. Too often people in Emotional Dependence may struggle to carry out some acts or tasks because their thoughts may be irrationally affected by unwanted emotions. Make sure you...
Emotionally Independent People Assisting
We all come across different people daily. Emotionally independent people need to consider being a friend to the emotionally dependent people where possible. You will be able to do this with the assistance of my two new books. It is not your responsibility to change...
Something goes wrong – what’s next?
I am sure some people are tired of hearing: 'Don't quit'! At the point of wanting to quit, your emotional state will be the cause for you to want to quit. Before trying to restore what went wrong and what kicked your butt, you need to deal with the state of your...
Emotional Independence versus Emotional Dependence
Emotional Independence versus Emotional Dependence These terms need to become familiar to you. Emotional Dependence is your enemy because it will stop you from becoming independent in other ways. I am going to write about Emotional Independence so people can identify...
Survivor versus victim
It is not easy being a survivor in a world filled with the victim mentality. Here are 10 traits which a victim may show Feels insecure and unsafe.Stays oblivious as to the cause of their unhappiness.Lacks self-discipline.Struggles with conflict situations.Makes...
Conversations are necessary
#conversations #discussions #family #equipping families #words #thoughts Conversations or discussions are important to express one's own thoughts and beliefs and spend time listening to the opinions of others, especially one's children/teenagers. We all desire for...
Time to get back to family discussions
More depends on family discussions than the parents can ever realise! Children/teenagers learn by observation and experience. If they have no family discussions they will be lacking in this beneficial ability. Parents can share their values and standards during...
Open discussions and not give lectures
Many years ago a family sat down every night to a family meal. During this time of bonding and being together, many issues were discussed and plans were made and boundaries were negotiated and problems were solved and questions answered. A camaraderie grew between the...
Parents programme your children/teenagers mind with valuable facts
Parents, please remember to be specific and clear about what you want your children/teenagers to remember in their future. It will be easier to influence children/teenagers in the way they should go than to try and change set-ways in adult children. Children/teenagers...
Children/teenagers need to become problem-solvers
Parents, please equip your children/teenagers to become excellent problem-solvers. They are going to often be faced with problems. A good problem-solver will be noticed especially as they become young adults. They need to understand that difficulties are more common...
Your choice today will determine the outcome of tomorrow
#parenting #choices Parents, equip your children/teenagers to know how to make appropriate and suitable choices every day. Allow them to make some wrong choices which will not be harmful, but more of a training exercise. Have a discussion with your children/teenagers...
Young adults – who is managing your game of life?
Young adults, you need to develop a personal and good and strong strategy in playing and managing your game of life or the competition out-there is going to swallow you up... Have you been equipped to think ahead using realistic goals and plans? Do you realise it is...
Making Good Choices Takes Practice and Training
#parentingteens #sensiblechoices #experiencingchoices #big/smallissues Parents, are your children/teenagers confident about making sensible choices when away from home? Life is about choices. Parents, equip your children/teenagers to know how to consider the...
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Parents, how can you improve your confidence
Parents have a certain amount of knowledge and experience of life and rearing their children/teenagers. There is, however, no harm in using additional material to enhance what information they have attained. Sometimes parents may feel indifferent about attaining...
Young People’s Comments; I Treasure
#newlife #confidence #thinkingproperly #suitabledirection #takingcontroloflife #calmparenting I believe the majority of young people benefited from the courses I presented. Why? It is truly humbling to imagine I had a good influence over many young people's lives....
Young adults it is difficult managing alone
#knowyoungadultsgetthebook #managinglife #groupsarepowerful #yourfutureiswaiting #futuresuccess #informativegroups #notwastingtime #helpingotherpeople Making the decision to either form or belong to a reliable, open and honest group is one of the most valuable and...
How does time affect your family?
Time is very sacred and no one should take it for granted. We each have the same amount of minutes in a day. Please try and not get to the stage of saying, "I can't wait for the time when the children can drive, finish school, get a job, leave home or whatever." If...
What “compass” directs us through life?
In a jungle of confusion, children, teenagers and young adults need the right "compass" to get back to safety. How do parents know if their children and teenagers are heading in the right direction for a successful life? The "compass" I am speaking about here is the...
Who wants to fly high to success?
This is for young adults and anyone who comes into contact with young people in their late teens and 20's to help them ask the right questions. How much time and effort are you putting into making good choices and taking expert actions? Are successful choices and...
Every family is a unique structure
There cannot be a "one-size-fits-all" structure for parenting. Every family is unique in many ways with its own dynamics, plans, outcomes and functions. The parents in every family have attained certain information, knowledge and facts through their own experience of...
My definition of success and happiness
I admit it is extremely challenging to keep my emotions controlled and not allow them to dictate to me and ruin each day. I have equipped myself to analyse my unwanted emotions or irrational thoughts, by identifying the facts causing the reasons or triggers which...
Young adults, stop hiding behind emotional masks.
Have you realised you are battling to control your emotions? What are you doing right now to fix this problem? Have you realised there must be some form of cause, an influence or reason which triggers emotions? Here are some examples of causes: Tiredness hunger ...
Do you need a Fresh Approach to Parenting?
Parenthood can be full of fun. The parents need to discover the ways to make parenthood enjoyable and exciting. However, there is no 21 year service rewards or retirement presentation. There is no guarantee your adult children will be happy and successful. There are...
The Productive Way of Life
Who is reaching their potential and purpose? Who acknowledges they have hidden abilities and talents waiting to be discovered? Who knows how to recognise new possibilities and opportunities and use these to the full? Who wants to join me to change for the better and...
Are you happy with your teenagers’ choices and actions? Part 2
The fruits of wrong choices and actions are regrets, guilt, disappointments and doubt. They who choose to carry the bad fruits of regrets and guilt, etc. around with them are not going to find the path to contentment, emotional strength and successful actions. The...
How do you get teenagers to “want” to make good choices?
Part 1 Good choices and actions are the products of balanced and reliable emotions and rational and reasonable thoughts. What parents tell their children/teenagers or what they forget to explain to them will make a considerable difference in their...
Introducing “emotional and thought muscles”
Eleven signs to check the condition of your children/teenagers’ emotions and thoughts. People who are physically fit can participate in a great number of exercises, sports and physical activities with ease. One day whilst working out on the treadmill at the...
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